Do you ever think about the subliminal messages you give to your loved ones? Sometimes it’s not about the words we say, but the seemingly mundane actions in which we participate.
None of us would say it was a good idea for a parent to trumpet to the world that she or he was going to a strip club; there’s a stigma attached to that – to say nothing of the fact that there are significant moral implications involved. But what about more subtle activities?
This has been brought to mind lately because of the advent of the movie Fifty Shades Darker, a sequel to Fifty Shades of Grey, which came out a few years ago. It’s astounding to learn of the number of people (mostly women) who have attended these movies who also are followers of Jesus.
There’s nothing wrong with going to the movies (apologies to my most conservative readers, but it’s true!). But we ought to choose carefully what movies (or other activities) we attend, because the world, and our kids, are watching. We should always ask ourselves if the activity in which we are about to participate is something we could easily explain to our children.
I’m not sure that anything in the Fifty Shades franchise is morally defensible, from what I’ve read of it. Is what’s depicted in these movies reflective of how we want our sons to treat women? Or how we want our daughters to be treated?
No matter what it is, let me encourage you to be careful in your selection of activities. Our children see what we do, and soak it up like sponges.
I’m reminded of a good saying from the late A.W. Tozer, a pastor and theologian: “What goes into a mind comes out in a life.”
Or, as one children’s song put it, “Oh, be careful, little eyes, what you see….”
“Decide instead to live in such a way that you will not cause another believer to stumble and fall” (Romans 14.13b, NLT).